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Excerpt from the upcoming book,
Sentience Part II, Childhood's End
If I live that long ... it may take awhile.
A person that has a secret they tell no one and cannot even admit to themselves, lives a barren, disrupted, and disruptive life.
Each and every individual of the male gender, as well as the male gender itself, has just such a secret and the whole human race suffers from it. Some more than others.
Men regret the absence of Loving Coitus. They have not even been able to admit it to themselves. Until now.
The stupour that we inherited from the animal and a range of disruptive circumstances have made it a dizzying prospect to reveal or even contemplate.
The male gender is driven to achieve sexual release on a regular basis. The fact that a man cannot achieve his lover's success without some sort of assistance is thrown in his face regularly and repeatedly because of his biological urge to achieve sexual release. It creates a conflict in his sentient mind that is far more aware of the inconsistency pertaining to coitus than an animal.
Because it is such a natural biological process, it astounds a man that he should have to think about how to succeed at making it more than the animal's rendition. That is a holdover from the dimwitted view of the animal. It is just the beginning of the conflict it creates in his sentient mind.
Due to the circumstance of his biological urge that forces him to desire to repeat the act, he cannot let it go. Due to the circumstance of his sentient awareness of the imbalanced results, he cannot ever be satisfied with the results.
The resultant perspective has been that there is nothing to be done. There is nothing to be done by an animal. We are not just an animal and there is plenty that can be done by a human. It is the defining difference between a sentient, thinking, Human being and an animal.
It is a shame and embarrassment that the male gender keeps secret, even from itself, due to the inertia of the history of the act that began long before humanity, and sentient thought ever existed. It increasingly derails the sentient state of mind over the lifetime of a sentient individual and race.
It is the conundrum that must be explored. The male gender never dares to ask itself the question. No man has been willing to ask another man about it, due to his unsuitable (holdover from the witless animal), but very understandable, feelings of shame and embarrassment regarding the failure.
The sentient male does not need to feel shame. He only needs to, finally, confront the problem.
Even worse, the inertia of mental barriers, in the peculiar form of paradigms of nonsense, have been accumulating over the last three millennia to avoid ever thinking about it, increasing the difficulty of confronting the issue.
An animal can do nothing about it. They cannot think in the robust manner of a sentient race. It may bother them but they do not have the mental facilities to do a thing about it. They cannot control the muscles that cause the inadvertent and inopportune eruption of ejaculation.
It is not beyond a Human, sentient male's capability and that makes all the difference in the world. It has only been beyond most men's ability to consider the issue. The fundamental reason all of this occurred must be explored.
Instigating events
The sequence of events that leads to the current state of men contending only within their subconscious, never letting the issue surface to their conscious minds, has made it difficult to discover what exactly went wrong, much less articulate it. This is one of the reasons it has taken three millennia to identify what went wrong.
The human race spent the last three millennia creating excuses, distractions, and justifications for the failure rather than ever taking the time to consider the issue and realize it is entirely resolvable in the context of a sentient race that can think. The coverup of the failure has been monumental.
The many fabricated triggers imprinted on the race over the last three millennia that block the thought from ever reaching the conscious mind certainly has been one of the reasons it remained obscure for so long.
We are seeking to discover the sequence of events in a man's life that create the vast denial of this crucial component of their sentient ascendance. Even in the face of that denial, our sentient awareness has continued to make it increasingly apparent over the last three millennia. All one really has to do is look around in order to realize something is wrong.
The results must also apply to all of the varied reactions, the strange behaviours and quirks, observed in the male gender due to the subconscious realization that Loving Coitus is absent.
Every single man is affected. It's just a matter of degree. Not all men go completely mad but, enough do to upset our existence in a serious manner.
It must also answer how and why the realization became so twisted and distorted, hidden behind a heap of nonsense.
One of the most bizarre aspects is that the male gender was able to close ranks on this unreasonable dysfunction without ever saying a word to each other about the subject. It is imprinted on the male gender without a word ever being uttered.
It has held all of humanity in thrall to the stupour for three millennia. How could that be possible? It is the most puzzling and insidious aspect of our demented state.
All men are so committed, on their own, to avoiding the subject, but so desperate to avoid considering the subject openly that they began to fear anyone that might expose the secret. It is the good old boys network personified. It led to a level of distrust that approaches paranoia.
All of this points to a single culprit. Cognitive dissonance.
Cognitive dissonance is a state of mental disarray that occurs when a person holds beliefs or opinions that are inconsistent with the clarity they sense regarding a sentient reality.
This explains so much. But, still, how does it occur?
It is a fundamental disruption of the mental state of the whole of the male gender that is reinforced nearly daily until old age.
It has been able to carry on in the face of all of the destruction it has caused for three millennia. How could that happen?
Cognitive dissonance suits the circumstances perfectly. It disrupts beyond just words. It disrupts the thinking process itself, throwing thoughts off into delusions, excuses, and justifications. It allows for aberrant deceitful thoughts, suppression of the most important realization, reinforced feelings of distrust, and hides the secret from all and sundry. It creates despair and delusions of grandeur. It is more than a single paradigm of nonsense. It creates an altered state of mind that adapts the self-deceits to suit the circumstances of the individual.
It suits all of the quirks, aberrations, and obsessions that consumes individual males, as well as the overall bizarre take on life that the male gender displays.
The whole spectrum of reactions is explained by cognitive dissonance. It also explains the quirks that many of the female gender adopt through osmosis from the male gender. It leaves room for all of the paradigms of nonsense that have developed.
It also explains the maintenance of the animal's stupour for three millennia. It sidelines the sentient mental facilities.
The source, the sequence of events that makes the cognitive dissonance possible is fascinating indeed, as should be expected.
The brain is vulnerable to going haywire during ecstasy. It stirs the brain to new heights (see The Grand Design), but also lays it open to reverting to the stupour in order to avoid sentient clarity on a most disturbingly coincident pair of events and the misguided belief that there is nothing to be done about it.
The reason for the man's dissonant, haywire reaction is also clear. The simultaneous occurrence of ecstasy and failure.
The male brain goes haywire during the ecstatic event of orgasm without the same occurring for his mate. How does he justify this? He can't.
The lack of the win-win scenario of mutual orgasm causes the dissonance. In the throes of his own ecstasy, he shunts the awful aspect aside into the subconscious, where it has remained for three millennia.
The importance of the win-win scenario of mutual ecstasy, is obvious to our sentient awareness, whether we like it or not. It may not have been as apparent to our dimwitted ancestors long ago. The realization of the win-win scenario arose before out sentient capabilities were full formed. Maybe long before.
The male's reactions make the situation clear. Their whole lives, their toxic, combative behaviour, and the results obtained make it clear.
They intensely hate the feeling of failure that their own ecstasy blocks from deeper consideration and, yet, they are driven to keep coming back for more, reinforcing the madness. It describes cognitive dissonance perfectly.
In their growing state of confusion over a lifetime and the secret that they have never admitted to themselves, they live with the aftermath of their own madness, while never even considering its source.
The disarray in their minds that this causes is so varied from individual to individual because the source has never been admitted openly. There is no consistency because it has never been discussed or even exposed to consideration. It's just free-throw madness, suiting each individual's circumstances, that is instigated by the simultaneous feeling of ecstasy that cannot be matched and the subverted consciousness of the failure of the same that they have caused their lover.
It remains a secret that everyone knows and no one has been willing to confront. Discussing the subject would expose its insanity, which the male gender has erroneously feared all along, combined with the erroneous fear that there was nothing to be done. That a sentient, highly evolved, thinking creature is different never came under consideration.
In my case, it has been a hard road because I could never discuss it with anyone, for all my attempts. I had to isolate to a painful degree to wrack my brain in order to finally gain a relatively clear picture.
Keep in mind that this thought first occurred when the human race was not all that smart or highly evolved. It continued to evolve from there.
The madness has proliferated into wildly opposing reactions because no one has been willing to confront it, much less discuss it, or even admit it to themselves.
Worse, the aberrant state and feeble attempts by men to form some kind of consensus that justifies the failure creates a bizarre desire for corroboration with those that have pursued similar aberrations (like obscene wealth).
Since they have a similar reaction to the madness, they can congregate (think Davos) and irrationally justify their obsession and find reasons to blame those that disagree for the fault. This is how it always, repeatedly, gets out of hand. Polarization of madness.
High mindedness, for instance, also congregates together in the same way with just as little rational justification.
Nothing but entirely eradicating the cognitive dissonance can make a difference.
The extraordinary, transcendent experience of orgasm sets the stage. The discrepancy of not sharing the ecstasy creates the dissonance. The long-held instinctive animal's reaction suggests, "that's just the way it is."
Our sentient awareness knows better and will not let the male gender ever forget it.
The only curse under which the human race has labored is the curse of not ever acknowledging our sentient awareness of an issue that the human race can unravel entirely in short order. The rest of the fabricated curses that the prehuman has concocted are just a coverup.
This explains the most fundamental aspects of the paradigms behind the bizarre situation with which the male gender has had to contend all along. It suits all reactions to the situation.
The conflict arising in the male mind by leaving the woman unfulfilled in the presence of one's own ecstasy that obliterates any immediate consciousness of failure explains so much about our disturbed state and the persistence of the animal's stupour that does not apply to a highly developed sentient brain.
This is the ultimate source of the dissonance that has ripped through every aspect of our existence.
How does a man contend with the realization that the situation of gaining their own ecstasy leaves their partner unfulfilled, undone by the most important and fulfilling act of existence. This is a person from whom the man purportedly desires to seek favour and for whom they are attempting to seek equality. Of course, it causes cognitive dissonance.
While I say, 'purportedly', it really is true. It's just that their intentions get twisted over a lifetime to become something awful and deranged.
This is one of the many side-effects. Women begin to perceive men as twisted. It is true that is what they often become, but it is not the deepest truth. The deepest truth is that their intentions become twisted over a lifetime of disappointment.
The situation causes the dissonance to increase over a lifetime to such an extent that, as men age, they are willing to burn down the world rather than face that which they have never been willing to face.
The man's biologically based sexual drive assures that the desire to do it again remains for a long time. The desire to repeat the act, sooner or later, overrides any hesitancy or concern for the downside of not attaining a win-win condition. Can you begin to get a measure of how difficult this has been to confront? How damaging it has been as it progresses throughout the lifetime of the individual and the race?
The most immediate aftereffects are clear.
Darkened rooms and the immediate desire to sleep in order to avoid processing the unacceptable (to a sentient mind) results.
Then, the rationalizations begin as the cognitive dissonance fades into the background but the desire, the physical, biological urge to reenact the parody of love, increases and causes the justifications and excuses. Anything to get laid again.
The incapacitating result of all of this is that men become takers rationalizing away their fading ability and desire to give, while women remain givers fulfilling the full spectrum of Human nature.
It all begins in bed. It does not need to remain that way.
The inability to consciously accept the state of affairs strengthens the dissonance and invades all aspects of the man's life over a lifetime.
Worse yet, the strengthening of dissonance over the lifetime of the human race has caused the stupour of the animal to remain and become violently destructive, long after it should have vanished.
Even with the suggestion that Loving Coitus is possible, the excuses and justifications that have been piling up kick into high gear. "But, there are religious reasons not do so so", "Some men find other ways.", "God made us that way!" etc, etc, etc.
These are all nothing more than excuses to avoid inspecting the issue that has been tearing us apart since our first sentient thought. It was a big part of the creation of formalized religions (as opposed to spirituality).
The proof is in the number of pills and the wide array of men that buy them, though the male gender will never admit the need. Men desperately desire to succeed at Loving Coitus but have not been able to admit it. The use of a pill as a substitute does not fulfill Loving Coitus nor remove their cognitive dissonance. It is just another dodge from the real question of men's veracity as Human beings, all on their own, that can only be confirmed in one way.
All of this directs us to the sequence of events in a man's life, and the male gender's unreasoning state, that creates the bizarre circumstances that have prevented us from obliterating our dystopian, destructive perspective on life.
No one has been willing to accept the importance of Loving Coitus. Even worse, is that no one is willing to admit that unassisted Loving Coitus is almost nonexistent.
Transforming coitus into an unassisted Human act is necessary for humanity to become Human. It does not mean everyone must participate in Loving Coitus. It only means that, when they do, they need to know, beforehand, that they can succeed with ease all on their own, as Humans.
The Sentient Narrative will remain unsound as long as unassisted Loving Coitus is denied by the Human race.
We can be Human. We just haven't admitted it yet.
It is complex to get to the root of it all, since the adamant refutation of the problematic nature of the absence of Loving Coitus, and its necessity to an unrestricted sentient, Human existence, has been developing for three millennia.
Rather than confronting the issue and, finally, succeeding, we buried the problem beneath growing heaps of folderol.
The strengthening of dissonance over the lifetime of the human race causes the stupour of the animal to remain, becoming more and more violently destructive. Every time it occurs, through a long life, it is reinforced.
Worse yet, the vaguely conscious awareness continues to slowly creep into the next generation at a younger and younger age. With no known viable recourse. Until now.
The destructive aspects of the secret
The secret that the whole of the human race knows and avoids mentioning, combined with the disruption caused by the cognitive dissonance that men experience, has so many awful ramifications for the human race.
It is essentially self-deceit of the male gender and every member of the male gender that is foisted on the rest of humanity.
The secret was the first deceit that initiated all of the lying. It has been able to linger for three millennia and proliferate into a setting, a framework, of deceit in which the human race has been drowning, like a frog in increasingly hot water.
It incapacitates our sentient state. It initiated a mindset of lies in which the whole of humanity became ensnared. It also created the irrational rationalizations that led to men's desire to be perceived as superiour in order to disguise their unacknowledged, but undeniable, feelings of unworthiness.
All because they have not faced that which they fear most, for no good reason, other than the cognitive dissonance that has gripped the gender. In their right minds, they would arrive at the solution rapidly.
While I am still a proponent of Loving Coitus, because I know it is possible for a sentient, thinking male gender to succeed, just the acceptance of the truth of the matter by the male gender would change humanity radically for the better.
Even though it's not really good enough, and it leaves many dangling issues, it is still better than the blatant denial of that which our sentient state makes crystal clear to everyone of us.
As any insight regarding human, sentient life has become apparent, if it had the slightest, most remote degree of application to the state of coitus, it was refuted in any way possible, no matter how mad the refutation was. (think InCel and any pompous justifications for madness)
The incognito nature of the internet has just increased the tendency to spew lies to alibi the feelings of shame, guilt, and self-hate by the most damaged anonymously.
The bizarre paradigm that has slowly been developing over the millennia, as each generation added its two cents to the madness, that only men are worthy of ecstasy dehumanizes the male gender further. Note carefully that this equates the human race with the animal. The incredibly offensive concept that only the man's ecstatic results are justified would be clearly seen as insane if we were a mature human race.
This mad paradigm also relegates the woman to a lesser station. It is just one of many damaging consequences that we have attempted to resolve with the ridiculous idea that legislation could change a thing.
Legislation will never make us Human. It only attempts to mitigate the damage done, and does a poor job at that. It becomes more and more apparent as the race develops.
Far worse than that, though, is the stupoured conclusion that the woman has no need to share in the delight and transcendental experience of ecstasy. This shows how blind the race remains to the sentient potential. (think Fusion)
You may not initially consider that important, but just take a moment and think. How can the human race feign sanity when half of the race, that is full well able to achieve ecstasy, is denied that transcendental experience?
Do you see at all? The ramifications are multifarious. How do we reach for our Humanity without the joint success of the genders? How do we achieve equality without equal status in bed? How do we achieve Fusion without the consistent equity of sharing and celebrating the most transcendental experience of Human existence without fail in the most intimate of relationships? It doesn't necessarily have to be achieved by coitus but coitus has to be a viable option for all.
Ergo, the current sham is used to justify a man's failure to make something Human out of coitus rather than reveal their, perceptually conceived, awful secret and move on to consciously consider how the male gender resolves the issue and seeks success. That success leads to the success of our Humanity as a sentient race.
It is offensively and unjustifiably rationalized that the woman is not worthy of the ultimate transcendental experience of ecstasy. That obliterates any pursuit of a sane sentient state, true equality leading to Fusion, and a loving environment for the race. A few individuals proclaiming their love does not even count, for so many reasons I won't even bother to begin a list.
The win-win scenario for the two genders, so necessary to a sane sentient existence - that is the only route that leads to equality of genders - has been undermined to the point of denial of all possibilities that our sentience represents.
The paradigms of cognitive dissonant origin created a whole host of subordinate paradigms over the last three millennia that have increasingly created a confusing, desperate, dangerous, and destructive state to combat our unrelenting sentient awareness of reality and our relentless pursuit of clarity that will not be denied as it continues to come to the fore.
It has always been a case of sink or swim. So far, we have sunk deep into the murk.
The paradigms erode our sanity and disrupt our sentient pursuit of clarity. Nothing can remove or restrain the sentient pursuit of clarity. Only the results of the pursuit can be damaged by remaining insane as a race.
One subsidiary aspect of the cognitive dissonance equates with misogyny, the treatment of women as something less. It is caused by the mad desire of the male gender to feel superiour in order to compensate for their subconscious realization of their inferior performance as Human beings due to their inability to resolve the absence of Loving Coitus.
That pursuit of a false superiority is one of the most damaging effects of the trial we have faced for three millennia.
Just admitting that secret would go a long way towards humanity gaining its unobstructed sentient state and its sanity.
There is no shame in the realization that our animal ancestors provided a set of circumstances that we find unpalatable. The only shame is in not admitting it.
To me, it does not seem enough, though, just to admit there is a problem since I am utterly confident that men can succeed at that which has haunted them since our first sentient thought: Unassisted Loving Coitus.
Results of the paradigm of madness
It is not intentional on the part of the male gender but, nonetheless, men are the source of our mad state. They have inadvertently been burdened with the most bizarre and peculiar affliction.
The affliction, mistakenly, caused shame and embarrassment that the male gender could not confront because of a vast misinterpretation of circumstances. Essentially, it causes the male gender to interpret human, sentient existence as no different from that of an animal because the most significant experience of prehuman life remains no different from that of an animal.
The misinterpretations of both genders became so deeply embedded that, by the time the mind developed far enough to contend with the situation, the male gender had already surrendered to defeat.
Men's self-confidence and self-respect have been undermined nearly daily, after achieving puberty, by the constant realization that they have failed to fulfill the act of love. This was compounded by the belief, that was passed down to each descendant generation in so many forms of paradigms of nonsense, that there was nothing to be done. Some of those paradigms of madness never even needed to be articulated, like the mistreatment of the female gender that is wholly due to the absence of Loving Coitus. The male gender's sense of defeat, masked by their desperate counter display of superiority, made it unnecessary.
Their desperate desire to counter an disguise their feelings of inferiority was the instigation of misogyny. It was always due to the male obsession with their failure. That it resulted in misogyny is just an awful, unintended side-effect that becomes exacerbated by any mention, or even intimation, of the failure, which just puts the male gender, which ludicrously feels misunderstood, on the defensive.
It is finally crystal clear that Loving Coitus must and can succeed for a sentient race.
The loss of life's momentum for men, as this mad jumble of paradigms begins to roam around the confines of their subconscious with a vengeance after puberty, is inconceivable. It drives many mad. It is a burden to all.
Because men realize all of these ramifications subconsciously, they do everything possible to drag the female gender down with them. Even the most stupoured of the gender realize this, which exacerbates the problem.
We are not an animal. Our heightened awareness makes it clear that there should be more to coitus. Our heightened awareness makes it impossible to refute entirely. It is foolish to believe that a sentient male human cannot overcome the limitations that the male animal has to endure. The male gender has never even tried to overcome the obstacle. Excuses, justifications, and inertia have prevented the male gender from succeeding in realizing their ability to overcome this obstacle to our sentient emergence.
I would use the phrase as "sentient, highly intelligent, highly aware male human", except that it might imply that it takes a special male human to succeed. Any sentient male human has the awareness, intelligence, and humanity to succeed at Loving Coitus, unless they have previously become beaten down to believe they are not.
All it takes is discipline, some small effort by a few to prove the case and make it evident, followed by the combined effort of the whole of the male gender to turn the tide of their past failure.
Women should consistently gain the same pleasure as the man. That has always been obvious to a sentient mind.
As our heightened awareness has refined itself over time, this conundrum has become increasingly apparent. As we continue to avoid the issue in the presence of our burgeoning awareness, the turmoil increases.
We are, essentially, avoiding our fulfillment and emergence into a sane sentient state by continuing to look away.
Even more so, the shock of finally realizing our full emergence into a sentient state is dependent on learning to love, exactly as Nature provided for and intended for a sentient race all along, will wear off as we fulfill our sentient state.
Nature left it to us to succeed, shed the shackles of stupour and move on, once we achieved the heightened state of awareness of a sentient species. Don't despair that it has taken three millennia of effusive expression by the human race to reach this pinnacle.
That is nothing. It is but the childhood of a race that has gained so much capability that it is difficult, even now, to comprehend.
My estimate of 99% failure rate at Loving Coitus is based on unassisted coitus lasting long enough to fully pleasure the woman (which is the point, of course), which seems to run somewhere between 10 to 15 minutes. At least, until women become assured that they can expect success as well.
Any other definition is meaningless. Two or three minutes, for instance, as success? Success of what? And, yet, that is the measure used by 'researchers'.
Can you see the double-edged sword here? How the issue forced humanity to limit its thinking faculties? How we had to shut down thinking to a great extent to avoid thinking about the issue that seemed disastrous to contemplate at all and, yet, has become increasingly present in the mind of every male human? History is clear on this point, as well. In every direction, our ability to think has remained constrained, if not perverted, not just regarding research on sex.
So far, my estimation of all research is similar to my viewpoint on the desire for more 'data, data, data'. No one wants to truly think for fear of that which lurks just out of sight.
Research, especially regarding the antics of the human race rarely goes beyond, "this is what they do". Not the slightest attempt to explore what is possible. Just, "this is the way it is."
The knowledge regarding the disparity of coitus has been available for at least three millennia. It is just the knowledge of how to achieve success that has been missing. (the best description, so far, that I have provided is in my book, Fusion; it is enough, though I expect a dizzying array of improvements as we gain our sentient perspective and take off the blinders)
Can you conceive what it means that half of the human race has beaten itself down in surrender and defeat at the hands of the act of coitus because they never took into account that they can consciously think as opposed to relying on the stupour of the animal that continues to plague us because of this conundrum?
The ramifications are vast and mind-boggling.
Can you conceive what it will mean when all men walk with their heads held high, their self-respect and confidence consistently in tact? Finally replacing the false facade, the toxic caricature of manliness, to get through the day.
I have tried to study this deeply. I have sought for something else that could undermine a fully developed Human's natural state of mature emotions, sentience, reason, and love for existence and one's fellow humans.
I cannot find another single instance that could undermine the human state of sentience like the very common, persistent, relentlessly repetitive failure of the act of love in its most pristine, physical form of coitus.
The currently accepted alternative of believing we are less, no more than an animal, is just ridiculous. That is right up there with foisting all of the grand qualities (that have always included crude portrayals of the foibles of the prehuman) on some fictitious god.
This is key. We have never really considered our sentient state's final fulfillment. We have always gone along with the idea that we are no more than an animal with too much brains and too little sense. We have surrendered to the belief that is best represented by two ludicrous statements. "We are only human" and "That's just the way things are". We continue to believe that the sentient state has fully developed. That is not the case. Not even close.
