Transformation

 January 2026

Well, this remains true. I write a lot in winter.  This year, along with winter's impetus, the insights are becoming clearer and more solid.

The male gender's pervasive toxicity is caused by the attempt to hide from the truth, to hide behind a mask of disdain for love, the very essence of sentient life.  It makes them mean, in their irrationally reinforced stupour.

I have been trying to understand and explain why I am so certain that the male gender desires freedom from the trap of its animal cage, explain my certainty that, at some point, this will catch fire, I finally have it.

The toxicity of the male gender is the reason that it will turn on a dime, once the truth is revealed and accepted by enough young men to reach the tipping point that Malcolm Gladwell defined so well.  No one likes the toxicity, not even those participating in it.  Everyone is desirous of resolution.

Male toxicity is the uncomfortable angst of the male gender's hopeless position regarding its failure to love.  They recognize the love in the mirrored gender that embodies the unfulfilled potential for love.  That is the reason the male gender strikes out in blindness at that which it has yet to achieve.  It makes them mean.  It makes them deceitful.

The male gender's violent denial of any thoughts on the matter certainly makes it even worse.  In fact, the depth of the denial determines the depth of toxicity.  It is like a sliding scale.  Acceptance of the state, with whatever consequences, ameliorates the toxic effects to some extent.  Nothing less than complete success, though, will remove the dystopian aspects of our existence, because a truly sentient race has every capability required to succeed.  Anything less drives the race mad.

It is a door just waiting to be kicked open.

In some ways, one could say success of the male gender at becoming wholly Human and sentience is all about discipline.

As I look back over my time, the antics of the male gender always reminded me of an undisciplined child, or more appropriately a mad animal for many, depending on how indoctrinated they were to act like they were human by the fairer sex versus how much they rebelled against the humanity forced upon them.

Let's start with  a reason that we must learn to succeed at Loving Coitus that's been bothering me more and more, as I have heard essentially the same thing, once again.  

    This is, of course, besides the primary reason, which is that we can, as a sentient thinking race, succeed.

A woman once told me that any woman in her right mind would only accept a man that was willing to go down on her.   No big surprise.  Now, I would ask her a question similar to a question I once had to ask a man.  

I was querying the man about his views on sex early in my discovery of what was wrong with humanity.  He had told me that going down on a woman always satisfied her.  I asked him if it satisfied him?  There was no answer.  He deflected and adopted a troubled expression.

I would ask the woman if she wouldn't rather the man looking into her eyes as they both achieved ecstasy, rather than her crotch?

Altogether, it comes down to the man learning discipline rather than just finding some way that any lesser primate can accomplish, or denying the desire entirely.  

    The male gender, using its sentient facility to master its body, is not just another primate.  We know we should succeed.  We let it languish for at least two centuries since we have been in a position to succeed.  All because of the stupour.

The male gender has a most important task to accomplish that it has avoided for three millennia.  It needs to step up and transform itself into a thinking, disciplined sentient gender that can finally gain its self-respect, assure itself of its sentient worthiness, and free the female gender to express its sentience and love unfettered.

There isn't a man on Earth that would not at least like to feel that it is a viable choice to gaze into his lover's eyes as they each achieve ecstasy rather than being required to seek an alternative in order to fulfill their lover.

It is all about mindset.  The mindset accrued by failing to make coitus a successful loving act sits uncomfortably in the mind of the male gender.  It creates a distorted, uncomfortable mindset for all.

All of the toxic masculine traits can be traced back to the impossible task of overcoming the feeling of failure at the one act that every man considers would actually make him a man.

Human, sentient life is not as mindless as we have made it out to be.  We have choices like no animal ever had.  While we realize that, in its most embryonic form, we have never admitted to the forces at work to bend our mindsets into remaining in a stupour. 

We transform the whole of the race into a sentient mindset by learning to love.  It is up to men to do so.  Their shame, guilt, and fear of failure have no basis in reality, except in their unwillingness to explore the possibility of success openly so that all can participate in the success that is certain.  The self-respect, confidence, and the noble characteristics of a sentient race await their success.  The task is not simple to contemplate but it is  simple to succeed.  Only the stupour impedes our progress.