Shame

 Shame

I have not stressed well enough in any on the books about the most disastrous effect of men of failing at Loving Coitus.  Shame.

It is being played out in the headlines every day.  Shame replaces men's self-respect in the absence of Loving Coitus.  The most direct result is the fear of the individual's shame being exposed.  The more heinous the depths of shame, the more desperate the person becomes to hide their shame.  Do you understand just how warped the situation is?  Honesty is long gone.  Anything but a desperate desire to hide that shame is suppressed.

This can and is leveraged by the most despicable.  It leads to madness incomparable.

The next most direct results of that shame are the lies (which begin with lying to oneself), fear (to the point of paranoia), and self-hate.  

The usual disclaimer applies.  The effect varies according to the individual man's circumstances and environment.  Make no mistake, though.  It affects all men that do not succeed to some extent at loving and it prevents all but those that do succeed from even attempting to become wholly Human.  I am not certain even those that succeed can truly be considered Human under the circumstances of being surrounded by madness.  They can hide away or participate in the attempt to right the madness, but they cannot succeed until they realize that every man can succeed.  If they think there is something special about themselves, they have failed.

In the worst cases, it is transformed into severely toxic masculinity and is, then, twisted into hate for oneself and one's existence by a bizarre set of beliefs including delusions of grandeur that leads to the most bizarre desire to portray oneself as master of the universe rather than master of oneself, and the belief that existence itself owes the individual for its pain.  

Do you see how that works?  His own failure "isn't fair".   Most haven't the slightest idea that their pain is not unique. All because the animal's lead has been followed flawlessly in order to fail at retaining the slightest trace of his Humanity.

Even in the best cases, it still wears away at the soul.  Why can't I succeed at Loving Coitus?  I am just guessing here, but it seems the most likely outcome, once a man openly asks that question of himself, is success.  It is, at least, success at loving by some means.  It is those that hide from every truth that are truly mad.

Clarity is required for all.  

It is of primary importance to realize that it is no one's fault.  It is a matter of initial conditions and the inertia of the past.  This is a key point.  There is no need to "badness" as it is currently defined.  There is no curse on humanity, other that the inability to clarify the problem.  Evil is a crock created by the stupour.  "Bad" people do not need to exist.

Do you also see the scale on which this works?  The most primitive, illiterate, uneducated man can be Human.  It does't take book learning to learn how to love.  It is just realizing that we all can be masters of our bodies because we think differently from animals.  We can really think things through.  

I'm not sure how this applies to women, since they do not even need to be master of their bodies in order to love.  Will they want to anyways?  Is there any benefit?

Once a man has confidence in himself that he can love, all doors are opened.  A man wouldn't stoop to coercing a woman in any way.  Coercion may be a much better word that misogyny.  It describes the gentlest to the most heinous version of that which toxic males do to women.  It is all coercion.

Once the male gender has confidence it can love, the Human species begins its journey as a sentient race.

The problems are all due to shame.  The resolution has all to do with retaining self-respect.  Which, I guess, could be considered the antithesis of shame.

What makes it even worse is that shame wants to hide.  It gets so bad that people bend their brains to justify their shameful thoughts, words, and deeds.

From the point forward that men have no shame, the conman or grifter won't have a chance to exist.

I call it informed innocence of a sentient species.  You'll have to look elsewhere for further explanations of informed innocence.